I did not bring any marriage book or any formula down. At the risk of sounding somewhat self serving or a little arrogant I think I know this part pretty good right here. So I did not bring any little black book because that book is about vows. You are here today to re-new, which means that we already understand what the vow is…we want to say it out loud for our future.
The first, I would dare not say first half—I hope you have not reached half way yet, but the first portion of the beginning of your walk has already been established. You have had some great days, and you probably have already had one or two days that you had to pray through. You have had some days that made you smile, you have had some days that made you find Jesus because it seemed like He was not there and you had to call and call and call…here is where I like the position that you have taken right now, you have had some days where you have had to work through to find the purpose that you have in your partners life. Sometimes it was not about winning or losing, sometimes it was just simply about understanding; and so the victory was in the understanding. In understanding it has been my personal experience that when you understand, it kind of takes the sting out of what you are walking through. Oft times you are going through and you do not even know why but when you make up in your mind that I will do this just because my love may rescue his heart, my love may satisfy the call on her life, then I will be the partner that produces success.
Calvin, here on in would you promise to love her now that you really know what love is, would you promise to care for her, would you embrace her heart and massage her dreams to the point where she can always look to the Christ in you and find comfort, will you be the man in her life from this day forward?
Mrs. Angie it is not good that a real man be alone. Not the fake one, not the imitation one, not the one who gets their dress code from television and take their cues from what everyone else is doing…but the one who sits and talks with you, one who converses with you, he is not perfect, but honest. Those who cannot be alone because they have to be sheltered by good will and love. Most times we want the favor of God but I tell you what is so important is the favor of an individual choosing with free will to be your covering. When a man has a womb-man to choose to cover his heart, his dreams, his life, his future, and his destiny…he becomes unstoppable. Nothing…nothing…nothing, can get in his way when he has a home to return to. Most spend their time trying to decorate a house but when he has a home to return to he becomes invincible. That is why there is always something trying to separate the two. But from this day forward now that you know what love is, now that you know the commitment and the responsibility with your yes, there is a responsibility that comes with your yes…now that there is no hiding from the kids, the finances are clear, will you promise from this day forward that you will love him, you will embrace the call that God calls him to…that you will be his pillow to lay on. Will you promise that from today forward you will look for the fresh Angie, the new Angie, that there will be a revival in Angie and when the revival happens that she will present it to Calvin. At this point in your life will you renew that commitment and look for that lady to give to him because that is the only one who can get him home. He is trying to get home but he cannot make it by himself. Will you promise that you will work to get Calvin home?
Calvin, at this point I want you to turn and just say, “You know me, I am the guy that you know, there is no faking it now, I tried it but you saw straight through me and that is what brought me back to the altar. I promise to love you I will always hold you for the rest of my life…I am your husband.”
Angie, would you turn to your husband and say these words, “God made me a reflection of you. I did not always understand it but I am learning to love and embrace it more than the air that I breathe. My purpose is to make you whole and in doing that, we serve Him together. I am your helpmeet, your pillar, your covering. I am the nest that you hide in if your wings ever get broken. I will love you for the rest of my life.”
And if you all are not afraid of each other and it has not gotten old you may salute your bride.
Give the Lord an ovation for covenant renewed!